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Post by Admin/ A. Mistretta on Feb 24, 2014 5:44:57 GMT -5
Please choose at least two questions to respond to.
1. What are the main qualities required to be a "coach" or "mediator" when a teacher and student are in conflict?
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day.
3. For students who impulsively react when their buttons are pushed, what are some specific strategies or phrases they can learn to stay out of an argument?
4. Describe at least three unconventional methods that are recommended to quickly stop misbehavior.
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Post by Rice on Feb 24, 2014 15:23:06 GMT -5
Please choose at least two questions to respond to.
1. What are the main qualities required to be a "coach" or "mediator"
when a teacher and student are in conflict?
Remeber that you are always the adult in the situation.
Ask students yes and no questions to limit the excessive and unnecessary responses.
Stay positive and remind them of their bright qualities.
Brainstorm solutions and set goals.
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught
and practiced every day.
~ belly breathe
~ count to ten
~ stress ball
~ chill out zone
~ bug and a wish
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Post by truette on Feb 26, 2014 17:14:52 GMT -5
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day.
*Greeting others
*Eye Contact
*Making a request with Please or I would appreciate
*Getting someone's attention with "excuse me"
*Following instructions
*Accepting criticism
3. For students who impulsively react when their buttons are pushed, what are some specific strategies or phrases they can learn to stay out of an argument?
I liked the "Escalation Assertion" strategy to help students verbalize their feelings in different ways.
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Post by Kelsey on Feb 26, 2014 18:49:09 GMT -5
1. What are the main qualities required to be a "coach" or "mediator" when a teacher and student are in conflict?
- listen to both sides without interruption so both parties feel they have been heard
- repeat what you've heard to ensure you understand each side
- ask what each party needs
- suggest a solution that mediates the issue (address both teacher and student)
- ensure both parties agree
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day.
- communication (when appropriate)…if something or someone is bothering you either go to the person directly or ask the teacher for a time to do so
- eye contact…I always look at the students and have them look at me
- look at the sky and count to ten (thanks Mrs. Burke!)
- Chill Out Zone…counting or sorting buttons
- breathe in through nose, out through mouth
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Post by Saunders on Feb 27, 2014 15:36:40 GMT -5
3. To help students control not reacting to impulsively reply to things, I think modeling how to implement a series of strategies (walk away, breathing, count to 10) would be helpful. When they see that even adults have to do things like this so that we don't over react is beneficial for them. I also think having a routine they know to follow (a series of questions to ask themselves...does this really matter? How does it impact me? Etc) will get them in a habit early in life about when to react and when not to. I also think writing their feelings can be helpful because they can then tear that up and have been able to write out their emotions.
2. Social skills/strategy:
-how to speak to people politely
-how to walk away from situations when you can't control them
-counting to ten
-how to appropriately respond to questions
-i feel statements
Kelsey- I like that you mentioned the aspect of repeating to understand. I always think of Mrs. Johnson and how she repeats/summarizes things that are said and I find that effective! I need to remember to do this more often.
Amber-I also like that you mentioned the reasoning for the importance of just yes or no questions. Sticking to those will keep emotions out of situations regardless of if you are dealing with students or adults.
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Post by virginia on Mar 1, 2014 15:36:53 GMT -5
Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day.
1.Think aloud
2.problem solving
3.accepting criticism
4. walking away
5. making eye contact
Describe at least three unconventional methods that are recommended to quickly stop misbehavior.
1. You can legitimize the problem behavior- If students are really talkative during class stopping and giving them a couple minutes to talk might help the constant disruption.
2.Reverse roles-allowing the student to become the teacher and the teacher behaves like a student.I have actually done this when I taught middle school. It worked really well because the student was able to see how hard it was to teach when there were disruptions. The student also felt the frustration of wanting to teach and having students not paying attention or listening. It really did change the behavior of the student.
3. Use humor and nonsense- I have used a book for years called"The Laughing Classroom " and it has all kinds of activities to start class or just have a laugh.There are tongue twisters for students to try saying or inventing a greeting instead of just a handshake.
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Post by virginia on Mar 1, 2014 15:43:07 GMT -5
Kelsey-I really like your idea of counting buttons in the chill out area. Students will be so focused on the counting that they will no longer be as angry.
Rice - I like the idea of yes or no questions sometimes also because it will keep students focused. There is a time for discussion questions and a time for short answer questions and you can tell when that is with your students.
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Post by fyu1988 on Mar 3, 2014 16:59:38 GMT -5
1. What are the main qualities required to be a "coach" or "mediator" when a teacher and student are in conflict?
When acting as a "coach" or "mediator" it is always important to make sure you listen to both students. This ensures that each student has the opportunity to tell their side of the story, so that they feel like they had a chance to speak. Once the children have explained what happened, it is a good idea to ask what they could have done to change the situation. Then, I always ask my students to tell a lesson they learned. Often times, I try to let the students speak to one another without me to see if they can come to a resolution. After letting the students practice this, the children rarely need me to help mediate. At this point of the school year, my students have really improved in settling their own conflicts. This has also immensely improved the way students communicate because now it is more effective.
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day.
-Make eye contact when speaking to somebody.
-Practice good manners because they matter! (Say please and thank you!)
-Try and compliment someone different every day. (Show that you appreciate them.)
-Be open and accepting to feedback or criticism.
-Calming down when you're upset; try writing a letter or taking deep breaths.
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Post by fyu1988 on Mar 3, 2014 17:02:32 GMT -5
I loved this!!! It helps to break the ice with a difficult child, especially one who may not want to talk right away. Sometimes, having the student smile or laugh will let them open up and be able to speak about what is bothering them :-)
3. Use humor and nonsense- I have used a book for years called"The Laughing Classroom " and it has all kinds of activities to start class or just have a laugh.There are tongue twisters for students to try saying or inventing a greeting instead of just a handshake.
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Post by Debbi on Mar 4, 2014 18:04:55 GMT -5
1. What are the main qualities required to be a "coach" or "mediator" when a teacher and student are in conflict?
A coach has to be a good listener who can maintain calmness when things get tough. The coach describes the problem, the process, and the role of the coach, so the coach has to have information about the situation. He encourages both the teacher and the student to share their feelings, then follows up to be sure the plan is followed.
4. Describe at least three unconventional methods that are recommended to quickly stop misbehavior.
*Reverse Roles by allowing the student to play teacher for a short time. This allows the student to see how he/she is making you feel.
*Agree with the criticism, put down, or accusation, then redirect the conversation in a more appropriate manner. Offer the student an opportunity to vent in a private conversation.
*Provide opportunities for exercise and movement throughout the day in order to limit large amounts of time sitting and listening.
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Post by Frail on Mar 5, 2014 20:39:18 GMT -5
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day.
- greeting others - This makes a huge impact esp. on certain students in my classroom. A simple good morning, how are you can change the whole mood before students walk into my class.
- showing eye contact
- manners for making requests and/or getting someone's attention
- following directions - in turn shows the students are listening
- resisting peer pressure - I often remind my students to be Billingsville leaders not followers
3. For students who impulsively react when their buttons are pushed, what are some specific strategies or phrases they can learn to stay out of an argument?
-TAG- tell the person what they are doing to bother you, ask them to stop, go tell someone if hugely don't - I use this in my class, but in terms of being a leader and solving the problem and if the problem can't be solved an adult will interfere. I think the students could utilize this acronym and it might be easier for them to remember. It'll also be easier for me to say "TAG" instead of the entire reminder.
- I messages
- the bug/want strategy
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Post by Crippen on Mar 5, 2014 20:44:10 GMT -5
1. What are the main qualities required to be a "coach" or "mediator" when a teacher and student are in conflict?
The mediator needs to maintain a calm voice. They need to listen to both sides without interruption so everyone feels like they are heard. Make sure each person understands what the other did to upset him or her then ask what they could have done differently or what they will do different next time. The two in conflict should try to come up with a resolution together that would make both happy.
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day.
1. Communication- Using kind words, a bug and a wish, eye contact
2. Belly Breaths
3. Chill out zone/vacation
4. Walk away from the situation
5. Count to 10
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Post by Daniel on Mar 6, 2014 6:18:14 GMT -5
Please choose at least two questions to respond to.
1. What are the main qualities required to be a "coach" or "mediator" when a teacher and student
are in conflict?
Always talk in a calm and soothing voice - both parties are mad therefore no one wants to be yelled at.
Stay positive
Give each party the right to talk and share their side without the other side
interrupting before coming to an agreement
Think about ways you COULD have handled the situation if you could do it again
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and
practiced every day.
Cool Out Zone
Closing eyes and thinking about someone or something positive
Stress relief ball - something to squeeze
Write in a journal that expresses your feelings. Sometimes if we talk, we say the wrong things but writing
allows us to think before we speak.
Counting to 10 - breathing exercises.
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Post by jpiper on Mar 6, 2014 19:55:45 GMT -5
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day.
1. Greeting others.
2. Showing eye contact.
3. Making a request.
4. Following instructions.
4. Describe at least three unconventional methods that are recommended to quickly stop misbehavior
Legitimize the Problem Behavior - Allow the behavior, but in a controlled situation. If the students are with the wiggles, let them stand up and shake the wiggles out. If they are talkative, give them a few minutes to talk.
Use Coupons to Legitimize - Give the student a certain number of that the behavior will be tolerated. This gives the student the chance to think about the action before it happens.
Put students in charge of their own problem -
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Post by jpiper on Mar 6, 2014 19:59:25 GMT -5
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day.
1. Greeting others.
2. Showing eye contact.
3. Making a request.
4. Following instructions.
4. Describe at least three unconventional methods that are recommended to quickly stop misbehavior
Legitimize the Problem Behavior - Allow the behavior, but in a controlled situation. If the students are with the wiggles, let them stand up and shake the wiggles out. If they are talkative, give them a few minutes to talk.
Use Coupons to Legitimize - Give the student a certain number of that the behavior will be tolerated. This gives the student the chance to think about the action before it happens.
Put Students in Charge of Their Own Problem - Allow students to be the class monitor of the behavior they exhibit most often. This gives power to the student who often acts out in order to receive power or attention.
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Post by angela on Mar 7, 2014 8:23:27 GMT -5
2. Self-control Strategies that can be taught- Think Aloud is a strategy to break down the situation into steps from "What is the problem?" to "What will I do?" Walk Away Assertively teaches the student not to give away their power to another student. This would be especially helpful with how to react to bullies.
Other strategies are: Use an acronym to remember steps to take, Asking questions of students so that we and the child understand what can upset them, Use the Bug/Want strategy to teach students how to communicate the problem and what express they need.
4. Three unconventional methods to quickly stop behavior are:
Coupons to Legitimize the problem- This is a way of letting the students know that their concerns and feelings are valid, but giving them a limit via a coupon of how often the student may verbally express their concerns or follow their own procedures as opposed to the ones established for the class as a whole.
Use Humor and Nonsense- This is a great strategy that can reduce the tension between the student and teacher. Simply making a silly face and creating a little silly song can improve the situation.
Behave Paradoxically- This a method of acknowledging what the student has said or done, put turning it into a lesson of giving the student another way to express themselves. This seems to be a little adult humor and could at times be seen as sarcastic, so we have to carefully choose when to use this strategy.
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Post by angela on Mar 7, 2014 8:27:49 GMT -5
1. What are the main qualities required to be a "coach" or "mediator" when a teacher and student are in conflict?
When acting as a "coach" or "mediator" it is always important to make sure you listen to both students. This ensures that each student has the opportunity to tell their side of the story, so that they feel like they had a chance to speak. Once the children have explained what happened, it is a good idea to ask what they could have done to change the situation. Then, I always ask my students to tell a lesson they learned. Often times, I try to let the students speak to one another without me to see if they can come to a resolution. After letting the students practice this, the children rarely need me to help mediate. At this point of the school year, my students have really improved in settling their own conflicts. This has also immensely improved the way students communicate because now it is more effective.
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day.
-Make eye contact when speaking to somebody.
-Practice good manners because they matter! (Say please and thank you!)
-Try and compliment someone different every day. (Show that you appreciate them.)
-Be open and accepting to feedback or criticism.
-Calming down when you're upset; try writing a letter or taking deep breaths.
I like how you ask the students what the lesson is that they have learned. I also appreciate the strategy of having the students go find help from another peer. This teaches the students great life strategies.
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Post by votaw on Mar 7, 2014 18:31:22 GMT -5
1. What are the main qualities required to be a "coach" or "mediator" when a teacher and student are in conflict?
* The coach needs to make sure not to choose sides and hear what both parties have to say. The coach should have each side choose a few things they want to see
changed. The coach has to make sure the changes are manageable for both sides.
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day.
* Showing eye contact
* Making a request
* Following directions
*Resisting peer pressure
* Getting someone's attention
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Post by votaw on Mar 7, 2014 18:32:32 GMT -5
1. What are the main qualities required to be a "coach" or "mediator" when a teacher and student are in conflict?
When acting as a "coach" or "mediator" it is always important to make sure you listen to both students. This ensures that each student has the opportunity to tell their side of the story, so that they feel like they had a chance to speak. Once the children have explained what happened, it is a good idea to ask what they could have done to change the situation. Then, I always ask my students to tell a lesson they learned. Often times, I try to let the students speak to one another without me to see if they can come to a resolution. After letting the students practice this, the children rarely need me to help mediate. At this point of the school year, my students have really improved in settling their own conflicts. This has also immensely improved the way students communicate because now it is more effective.
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day.
-Make eye contact when speaking to somebody.
-Practice good manners because they matter! (Say please and thank you!)
-Try and compliment someone different every day. (Show that you appreciate them.)
-Be open and accepting to feedback or criticism.
-Calming down when you're upset; try writing a letter or taking deep breaths.
I like how you ask the students what the lesson is that they have learned. I also appreciate the strategy of having the students go find help from another peer. This teaches the students great life strategies.
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Post by votaw on Mar 7, 2014 18:33:51 GMT -5
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day. 1. Greeting others. 2. Showing eye contact. 3. Making a request. 4. Following instructions. 4. Describe at least three unconventional methods that are recommended to quickly stop misbehavior Legitimize the Problem Behavior - Allow the behavior, but in a controlled situation. If the students are with the wiggles, let them stand up and shake the wiggles out. If they are talkative, give them a few minutes to talk. Use Coupons to Legitimize - Give the student a certain number of that the behavior will be tolerated. This gives the student the chance to think about the action before it happens. Put students in charge of their own problem - I like the idea of allowing the students to be in charge. |
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Post by appleby on Mar 7, 2014 18:51:16 GMT -5
Identify at least five social skills:
1. greeting others
2. showing eye contact
3. getting someone's attention
4. following directions
5. resist peer pressure
Describe at least three unconventional methods that are recommended to quickly stop misbehavior
1. giving coupons- giving a coupon for students to use. They will use get to use a coupon for the behavior they are doing to help limit the time.
2. letting the student be the teacher- giving the student the opportunity to be the teacher. If the students take over the teacher will act like the behavior. Meet with the student afterwards.
3. agree with put-down: teachers can deflect negative comments by agreeing with the comments.
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Post by appleby on Mar 7, 2014 18:53:33 GMT -5
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day. - greeting others - This makes a huge impact esp. on certain students in my classroom. A simple good morning, how are you can change the whole mood before students walk into my class. - showing eye contact - manners for making requests and/or getting someone's attention - following directions - in turn shows the students are listening - resisting peer pressure - I often remind my students to be Billingsville leaders not followers 3. For students who impulsively react when their buttons are pushed, what are some specific strategies or phrases they can learn to stay out of an argument? -TAG- tell the person what they are doing to bother you, ask them to stop, go tell someone if hugely don't - I use this in my class, but in terms of being a leader and solving the problem and if the problem can't be solved an adult will interfere. I think the students could utilize this acronym and it might be easier for them to remember. It'll also be easier for me to say "TAG" instead of the entire reminder. - I messages - the bug/want strategy I love the TAG. tell, ask, go. I think this is will be easier to incorporate in kindergarten. |
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Post by appleby on Mar 7, 2014 19:00:43 GMT -5
1. What are the main qualities required to be a "coach" or "mediator" when a teacher and student are in conflict? * The coach needs to make sure not to choose sides and hear what both parties have to say. The coach should have each side choose a few things they want to see changed. The coach has to make sure the changes are manageable for both sides. 2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day. * Showing eye contact * Making a request * Following directions *Resisting peer pressure * Getting someone's attention I agree that coaches need to make sure not to choose a sides and to hear both sides. It will be key in the classroom. |
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Post by Monka on Mar 9, 2014 19:54:25 GMT -5
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day.
-Greeting others. This is definitely something I have seen more of in our school and it's good to see.
-Making a request using please and thank you.
-Following instructions and repeating them back.
-Accepting criticism without arguing
-Getting someone's attention by saying excuse me
3. For students who impulsively react when their buttons are pushed, what are some specific strategies or phrases they can learn to stay out of an argument?
Using the bug/want or bug/wish strategy or using quick comebacks that aren't designed to attack the other person, but more to not give them any more power, like that's your opinion or sorry you feel that way.
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Post by Monka on Mar 9, 2014 19:59:49 GMT -5
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day. 1. Greeting others. 2. Showing eye contact. 3. Making a request. 4. Following instructions. 4. Describe at least three unconventional methods that are recommended to quickly stop misbehavior Legitimize the Problem Behavior - Allow the behavior, but in a controlled situation. If the students are with the wiggles, let them stand up and shake the wiggles out. If they are talkative, give them a few minutes to talk. Use Coupons to Legitimize - Give the student a certain number of that the behavior will be tolerated. This gives the student the chance to think about the action before it happens. Put students in charge of their own problem - I like the idea of giving the student a chance to exhibit the behavior but in a controlled situation, especially giving them a few minutes to talk!  |
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Post by Monka on Mar 9, 2014 20:02:25 GMT -5
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day. - greeting others - This makes a huge impact esp. on certain students in my classroom. A simple good morning, how are you can change the whole mood before students walk into my class. - showing eye contact - manners for making requests and/or getting someone's attention - following directions - in turn shows the students are listening - resisting peer pressure - I often remind my students to be Billingsville leaders not followers 3. For students who impulsively react when their buttons are pushed, what are some specific strategies or phrases they can learn to stay out of an argument? -TAG- tell the person what they are doing to bother you, ask them to stop, go tell someone if hugely don't - I use this in my class, but in terms of being a leader and solving the problem and if the problem can't be solved an adult will interfere. I think the students could utilize this acronym and it might be easier for them to remember. It'll also be easier for me to say "TAG" instead of the entire reminder. - I messages - the bug/want strategy I love the TAG. tell, ask, go. I think this is will be easier to incorporate in kindergarten. The TAG strategy is great and allows students to take responsibility for their interactions with one another. |
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Post by theresamatheny on Mar 17, 2014 11:58:58 GMT -5
2. Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day.
Greeting eachother nicely
Modeling ways to get someones attention
Following instructions and showing how you abide by the rules or requests
Accepting criticism without arguing or denying, accepting feedback
Doing what you know is right while resising peer pressure
4. Describe at least three unconventional methods that are recommended to quickly stop misbehavior.
* Use exercise regularly- passive sittign adn listening is difficult for kids and adults. We make it easier when we incorporate movement so that students have frequent breaks and can focus.
* Record your class or student- they never know who you will show it to and who doesn't want to be on TV. Review reorded misbehavior and take time to show students and parents what was recorded.
* Put students in charge- this way they focus more on making sure everyone else is doing the right thing and not spending the time on their own misbehavior
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Post by youathao on Mar 17, 2014 12:32:34 GMT -5
Identify at least five social skills or self-control strategies that can be taught and practiced every day.
1. Problem Solving
2. Reminders through acroynyms
3. Greeting others
4. Accepting Criticism
5. Following Directions
Describe at least three unconventional methods that are recommended to quickly stop misbehavior.
1. Use coupons to legitimize-telling the student it is ok to behave the way they do for a certain number of times before the bevior becomes unacceptable
2. Reverse Roles-giving the student the opportunity to play teacher will you take on the role of a student. This is a good way to make better choices
3. Use Nonverbal Messages like sign language
I agree with Mrs. Monka, sometimes acronyms remind the students of the steps they will need to take to make better choices.
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